I Retired Early and Now Travel the World Staying in Airbnbs

For Travel + Leisure’s column Traveling As, we’re talking to travelers about what it’s like to explore the world through their unique perspectives. Burnt out from corporate America, Kelly Benthall got her finances in order and gave up her Texas lifestyle to retire at 53 and live around the world in Airbnbs with her husband, Nigel. Here’s her story… 

I was living in Texas and working in oil and gas. As time went on, and the kids left, my job became extraordinarily stressful—to the point that I had to be wheeled out on a gurney through the lobby, hooked up to an EKG. After all those years of feeling like I needed to overachieve, my doctor said my job was trying to kill me.

Once I realized that, my husband, Nigel, and I got a financial advisor who gave us some sound projections and advice. I always thought I would retire at 65 and play golf. Nigel didn’t have a retirement plan. He was going to work forever, and it took me a couple of years to get him to turn the corner. But at 53 years old, I decided to retire. 

Once the job went away, all my stress dissipated and my levels returned to normal.

I wasn’t raised traveling. Our family would take our modified van from Texas to Ohio every year to see my grandmother—that was our big trip. I didn’t even have a passport until I got married the first time in my 20s, and we just went to Mexico. Eventually, at work, I said yes to every single trip that came up because I was interested in seeing the world. I love foreign languages and talking to people from different countries. One time, one of my contractors was pregnant and couldn’t go to Kalimantan, Indonesia. I knew nothing about what she was doing, but I went anyway.

I find travel quieter and calmer [than being at home]. I’m attuned to every little thing because it’s new and different, so I relax and take it in. I am not a playground tourist—I don’t go to all the major tour sites. I might walk by and walk in, but I like just hanging out at a cafe and chatting with people.

While I have lots of friends and family in Houston, it’s not ultimately where I wanted to be, sof when Nigel and I both retired, we got the idea to travel the world, living for a month at a time in Airbnbs. 

We started with a trial run in 2023, spending a month in Mexico to make sure we could actually live with just each other. At the time, we had been married for about seven years.

We stayed in the middle of the jungle in Tulum in a very intimate space—the door between the bedroom and kitchen was glass, so there was no privacy at all. But we did Pilates on the roof together every morning and cooked dinners. We bought a Christmas tree and decorated it. And we did a great job—I was very proud of us. So we came back and started planning our global travels. 

I watched all the YouTube videos I could find and listened to people’s advice. Initially, I went to some local real estate agencies, but I like places that have local flair. What I found is that Airbnb, more than other platforms, is good with that because we can connect with local hosts. Plus, we can search easily for things that are important to us, like outdoor space. We’ve had some nice places with rooftop pools that weren’t expensive. Being able to see all the ratings and not having to sign a lease makes it easy. 

It’s also been affordable. We’re now staying in this place in Aix-en-Provence, where we’ve been for eight weeks, and got a 70 percent discount for a long stay. So we could stay for a week somewhere, or we could stay for six weeks for the same price. I thought, how did no one ever tell me about this? That really is the thing that’s made this all possible, and I’m grateful for it.

We started in Dubrovnik, and took Nigel’s 87-year-old mom with us. It was interesting because the language is so different. We did a walking tour with someone who spoke English so we could get the lay of the land. The city was amazing, like a movie set. We learned to walk up and down its hills. We stayed in a neighborhood that had these local bodega-type shops. The older guys would play buće (bocce) in the evenings, and we would go out and sit with them. 

We asked our Airbnb host what we could do for the community even though we don’t speak the language, and ended up helping harvest grapes at this small winery. They can’t hire too many people because of tax issues, so they rely on volunteers. It was hot and difficult work, but a fun way to learn about the culture. 

Since then, we’ve also picked up trash on beaches in Mauritius. When you’re a tourist, you might not think about it, but when you’re visiting for longer, it’s different. That’s one of the things that helps us connect with the locals. They know we’re not just using and leaving. We hope to get more involved with our community work. We would eventually like to work with kids, but we’ll have to stay longer to earn that trust and get the language down. 

When we get to a new place, we’ll usually start by finding a local market. We’ll explore and find the things locals do. In Seville, for example, we were across the street from a community center, so we’d go and see all the classes people were taking. It was easy to get involved with the neighborhood because they would all gather outside in the evening, so we joined them. That’s usually how we acclimate ourselves.

We also like to walk around and get lost. Since we’re in places for so long, we have time to ask around. A few times a week, we’ll do day trips. The other day, we took the train to Avignon and went wine tasting in Châteauneuf-du-Pape. 

In Mauritius, we got really close with our Airbnb host. They lived across the street and invited us over to use their property. We spent New Year’s Eve with them. It was just lovely. We stayed in Lecce for a month and would drive to the different coasts. We spent a few days south of there, and I met a woman who took my photograph from behind while I was watching a sunset and drinking a glass of wine. She invited us to a dinner party the next night, so we extended our stay. No one spoke English, except for one kid. We sat in the middle of the table with the hosts, and everyone sat as far away as possible because they knew we didn’t speak the same language. But by the end, we were able to communicate using Google Translate and through the child. That was memorable, and I still keep in touch with them.

I find comfort in spreadsheets, so we use one to plan our travels. It’s color-coded following the sun by region. Then, I have the cost of living compared to the U.S. We also don’t want to spend a ton of money on flights, so we pick a general area. Right now, we’re doing Europe, and we do a bit of the Schengen shuffle if we need to because we can’t stay too long. 

Nigel’s family is in England, so it’s been our jumping-off point. We have six kids, and one daughter, two grandkids, and Nigel’s mom are all there. Our other kids are in California, Utah, and Texas, so we do a U.S. round for about three months. 

We stay in each place for at least a month to get the discount. We wanted to spend some more time in Provence because neither of us had been, so we’ve been in the region for three months now. Next, we’re going to go back to England since I’ve never seen my husband’s home country. Then, we’re going on a road trip and will spend a month in Ireland. Airbnbs there are about $65 a night, pretty cheap. You can’t even get some hostels for that amount.

We could stay in bed-and-breakfasts on this road trip, but I don’t want to be put together and mingle all the time. I need my own space and a kitchen. We cook all the time with ingredients from the local markets. It saves us money, and it gives us a lot of privacy, which we don’t get in hotels. In Mauritius, we did go to a hotel for a nice meal on Christmas Eve, and I was like, “Oh, I forgot how nice hotels are because everyone is serving you rather than serving yourself.” But I don’t think I could live in a hotel.

After that, we’ll go back to the spreadsheet and feel it out. I know we want to go to Asia, then New Zealand. We also want to go to Bali and South America. We’ve got all of these big-picture plans.

There are definitely challenges. I miss our friends and family, and being able to drop in on people. We always book a place with an extra room so we can have people visit. But it can also be a bit isolating if we don’t make an effort.

It’s not just being in another country. Being retired is weird at this age. At first, I felt a little guilty doing nothing. Now, I realize it’s OK to be bored. I enjoy it. I’ve gotten a lot more creative in this chapter, a lot more introspective. Nigel always wants to go and do things, and I have to remind him, we’re here for a long time. You don’t need to see everything right away. We’re not here as tourists. We’re here as kind of locals, while also doing a bit of touring.

People will ask where we’re from, and that’s a complicated answer. They also ask what we do—not so much overseas as they do in the U.S. We’re fortunate to have this lifestyle, but it’s difficult to explain to people in a way that doesn’t sound braggadocious. I tell people we’re looking for places where we belong in the world and are exploring and looking for adventure.

My background is in behavioral psychology, so I like that I get to walk in the shoes of other people and understand their perspectives. It’s been eye-opening. In Texas, we say hello to everyone. In places like France, people are super-friendly, but they’ll say bonjour and that’s it. They don’t automatically become friends with you. It depends on where we are in the world. 

Once we spend a month in a place, it feels like home. We always feel like we should spend more time there because just when we’re getting to the point where we know where everything is, it’s time to go. We have our local wine bar and fishmonger, and it’s time to leave again. We can’t stay during the high season because it’s expensive and I don’t like crowds.

I’ve found observing and absorbing cultures to be very unifying. The world is giant, but also so small, and traveling really teaches us respect. I have so many friends and family members who just don’t understand what we’re doing. But if everyone would just go and explore, it would break down these perceived barriers we all have. You realize people have stereotypes about you that may not be true. I can’t force my interests on other people, but I do feel strongly about it and think it’s something everyone should do.